It seems to me that many if not most of us are grieving these days. 

We mourn our dead, of course. Some of us have lost friends or family members to the virus. Others grieve the deaths of loved ones who can’t be honored at a proper memorial service because of restrictions on large gatherings. Without knowing their names, we mourn the 150,000 Americans who have died of covid-related causes.

But there’s more to it than that. We’ve all lost so much more: vacations we were looking forward to, family gatherings and celebrations that can’t happen, jobs. The virus has put limitations on the way we work and serve our communities; it’s restricted the freedom to go where we want to go and do what we want to do in ways most of us have never experienced before. We’re irritable and can’t concentrate and we don’t know why, not immediately recognizing what’s happening as grief.

I’ve been working my way through the book “Winter of the Heart” by Paul D’Arcy and finding it tremendously helpful. It’s oriented toward grieving the loss of people who were important to us, but most of the points it makes about grief are easily adaptable to these other losses.

The work of grief, D’Arcy says, is to gratefully let go of what is no more and reorient ourselves to the possibilities that lie hidden in what is, a transformation that requires letting love open our hearts to create “an open space through which the river of sorrow can flow.” Paraphrasing the late poet and priest  John O’Donohue, she says that there’s an invitation to be found in every moment of our lives, “even in the deepest heartache.”

I think of these river reflections as occupying a kind of liminal space somewhere between reality and imagination. Though not exact replicas, the shifting images reflected in the river often reveal a special beauty of their own and help us to appreciate the original all the more. So then what does it mean to say that we are created in the image and likeness of God, a different kind of reflection?

Quick bike ride before Zoom church. In addition to the doe, I pass walkers, bikers, a huge turtle basking in the sun on a branch fallen into the canal, a distant woodpecker and a rooster who crows as I ride by. Life is beautiful, life is fragile, life is tragic, life endures, life inspires. All life is one. Black lives matter. Lives lived to the end in nursing homes matter. The lives of health care workers and first responders matter. Lives lived on the streets matter. The lives of prophets calling for justice matter. Creation care matters. Lives at the border matter. All lives matter, of course, but some lives have been devalued when we suppose that God loves us better. All life is one. All life is created by God. This is where God is for me this morning.

Prayer written for a group that’s been reading Christine Valters Paintner’s book titled “The Soul’s Slow Ripening” together and discussing it on Zoom:

Good and gracious God, source of all love,
in whose image every one of us was created, 
you made us to love, and to be loved. 

Hold us now in the great circle of your love, 
as a mother embraces her children;
comfort and protect us as only you can. 

We fear now in this pandemic for our own safety, 
even as we witness the raw pain of others who never felt safe.
There is so much that is broken in our world and in our own hearts.

Give us courage and compassion to face that brokenness, and not turn away.
By your grace may we be healed; 
by your grace may we become healers in your name.

Circle us with your love,
and help us to appreciate 
just how large that circle is.

Help us to see that you are there 
in all those places where your children are suffering,
and if we want to follow you, we will have to go there, too. 

In the name of your Son who knew pain, grief, and injustice, 
and prevailed over them 
to show us the way.

Amen.

Spoiler alert: The picture is not what I’m going to talk about here. 

I took this photo over the weekend, but I didn’t post it then because it felt tone deaf to be to be lifting up Bucks County’s peaceful countryside while people in places not so far away were experiencing such turmoil. I’ve been doing the social isolation thing pretty seriously, so I didn’t rush off to join the protests, but I have been doing a lot of thinking and reading this past week. Curiously, I find that I have nothing much to say about the demonstrations and the reactions they’ve provoked.

I’ll tell you a story: Long ago, when I was young, earnest and impressionable, I had a friend who seemed to know the right way to think about everything. I was drawn to that person because I wanted to think right, too, and I listened very carefully. Later, I was a little embarrassed by my pose of acolyte to the wise one. Much later, I saw a bit of arrogance in their posture of knowing the right way to think about everything, but I didn’t really take the lesson to heart.

Very much later, I was ordained and set about living into all the joys and responsibilities of ordained life, one of which is proclaiming the Gospel in a specific place and time. Which very frankly can feel a little like knowing the right way to think about everything. It’s what’s expected of you, you’re supposed to pray first for wisdom to know what to preach, but to be very honest it can be habit-forming. It can start to feel pretty good to be the one who knows the right way to think about everything. I can be hard to stop.

In my experience (but what would I know) when you go to an Episcopal Church, stand up front, and hold up a Bible, people expect you to open it and read something to them. Since that didn’t happen in the news from Washington yesterday, I’m going to fill in by offering a portion of Psalm 72:

Oh God, give your anointed one your judgment–
and your justice.
Teach your chosen one to govern your people rightly
and bring justice to the oppressed.
The mountains will bring the people peace
and the hills justice!
Your anointed will defend the oppressed among the people,
save the children of the poor,
and crush the oppressor.
…

Your anointed will rescue the poor when they cry out,
and the oppressed when there is no one to help them.
Your chosen one
will take pity on the lowly and the poor,
and will save their lives.
Your chosen one will rescue them all from violence and oppression,
and will treat their blood as precious.

On this day, feed your hunger for purpose
   with a hearty meal that begins 
   with a chopped onion, a little garlic.

Simmer until the fragrance of it
   reaches everyone in the house,
   summoning them to the feast. 

Let your earnest desire to heal the world 
   find fulfillment then 
   in a smile across the dinner table.

Satisfy your desire for presence 
   by patiently receiving that long story 
   whose conclusion you already know.

Just for now, let your longing to serve God and humanity 
   find fulfillment in cleaning the kitchen when the meal 
   is done; send the others out to watch the moon rise.

Love the ones who share the house with you.

Let go of fretting that you were made for something more, 
   for some beautiful future 
   you’ve been chasing after all your life. 

Bless these moments when your purpose is clear. 
   Know each one for what it is: 
   the beginning and end of time.

Accept the invitation to enter there into the heart of God, 
   realizing at last that this blessing of each minute 
   will fill your day with grace.

Understand that a life of meaning begins 
   not with climbing a mountain before breakfast, 
   but with stopping to make the bed.

Be content. Be blessed by your life as it is.

A hundred thousand. Lord, have mercy. Many of those taken from us were elderly, but so many others were not. Ages 44, 52, 36, 25, 48, 43 … they still had so much to give, and the world is so much poorer without them.

Many of us are grieving … for this loss of life, for the loss of the lives we ourselves wanted to be living now … and it’s hard to grieve alone.

We need to feel free to go ahead and do the work of grieving, to curse and to cry. I think it’s important to face the loss, and not just turn away and wait for it to be over. We need to engage our grief.

But one thing I think we need to be careful about is targeting the wrong enemy. I see that in those who want to shame people who are or are not wearing masks, those who blame individual politicians for the closings, those who want to reopen churches now as an act of religious freedom.

I think true religion calls on us to dig deeper, to nourish compassionate hearts.

I read this this morning and found it helpful. It’s a reflection on Mark 7:24-30, the story of the Syrophenician woman who told Jesus that even the dogs deserve their crumbs:

Jesus of Nazareth,
When you met the
Woman of Syrophenicia,
you called her a little dog
but that didn’t stop her.
Little dogs need little crumbs,
she said,
and you listened,
repented,
and praised her for her words.
We praise her words too,
and ask that we can speak like her,
and listen like you.
Because this is the gift of
resilience
and repentance.
This just might save us.
Amen.

from “Daily Prayer with the Corrymeela Community,” by Padraig O Tuama

https://www.nytimes.com/interactive/2020/05/24/us/us-coronavirus-deaths-100000.html?action=click&module=Spotlight&pgtype=Homepage

Upstairs, downstairs: Tree roots, cross section.

One of the great pleasures of the walks which are really my only chance to get out and about these days is observing nature more closely than I ever have before.

Another is encountering people – at a safe distance – on the way. This must sound strange, I know, coming from a confirmed introvert such as myself. But exchanging a minute or two of conversation with someone else, whether that be an acquaintance encountered by chance or just someone friendly, is a joy.